With online dating apps being so popular, it is easier than ever to find a date, although that doesn’t mean that every date is going to be good. In fact, the chances are, you will have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince. This can be a long and frustrating process, so to speed it up, here are some questions that divorce lawyers suggest you ask on a first date to determine if your date is a keeper or needs kicking to the curb.
‘When did you last talk to your parents?’
It is useful to establish the type of relationship your date has with their family. If they are close to their parents, and siblings, this might show that they are a loving person; however, it is important to be sure that, if it ever came to it, your future spouse would be willing to prioritize you and your relationship. On the other hand, if they have a rocky relationship, this could suggest issues in their own personality, or perhaps an inability to sustain relationships.
‘What do you love about your job?’
Hearing someone talk with passion is a very attractive quality, and this question can also tell you a lot about someone. For example, are they flighty, and go from job to job, never seeming satisfied? Do they have pride in what they do? Are they married to their job and would potentially prioritize it over a relationship? Make sure you know whether your work ethics go together healthily.
‘Do you believe in “happily ever after?”’
As much as we would all like to believe that our lives will be as simple as the ending of a fairytale, that is not the case. A happy relationship takes work, commitment and dedication, so your future partner needs to understand that and be willing to work towards it. Of course, if your date doesn’t really believe in long-term relationships at all, it might be time to ask for the check and get out of there sharpish!
‘Do you remember [blank]?!’
This is a fun way of finding out how old your date is and reminiscing about a show/band/fad that you loved when you were younger. Interestingly, a vast number of people going through a divorce claim to not have had any idea of how old or young their spouse was until they were engaged!
‘Where did you go for your last trip?’
Although the answer to this will be interesting anyway, the real idea is that you can hopefully get onto the subject of money, without being crude. Money issues are one of the most common problems in marriages and so learning about whether your potential partner is a spender, a saver or drowning in debt will potentially save some issues in the long run.
‘How did your last relationship end?’
The answer to this is pretty telling. For example, if they rant on for an hour about how awful their ex was and how it was all their fault, this is a major red flag. If they are willing to take some responsibility, then they are likely to be an honest person in a relationship.
Of course, you can’t just ask all these questions as if you are conducting an interview (although, you sort of are!), try and make it natural, as well as enjoying your date! Good luck!