Thinking of calling it quits with your significant other? Before you jump to conclusions, take a step back and consider the reasons that you’re feeling so frustrated. Perhaps it has nothing to do with your partner and you are, in fact, just having a nightmare of a day.
It’s no surprise that a bad day can make things seem a lot worse than they are, and it’s no different when it comes to your partner. Arguments that you could have skipped or laughed off on any other day may seem to take a life of their own on a bad day. Before you know it, they snowball into a crisis and have you questioning everything that you thought you were sure about.
There can be many benefits of staying in a healthy romantic relationship with a partner that you care about deeply. It is important to engage in continuous maintenance in order to keep said relationship going and to aid the growth of your partnership for your emotional well-being. Then again, relationships do come with deal-breakers, and if you are beginning to feel that yours has run its course, you should learn how to let go.
That being said, it can be hard to know whether you’re feeling like breaking up because you’re down in the dumps after a bad day, or if it really is time to call it quits. Here’s how to know if you should reconsider a break-up.
You want to end things because you feel stuck in the relationship
The first few exciting months of dating and courtship have passed. Now, you’re more settled into each other’s company. You no longer go out as much as you both used to, instead falling into a comfortable routine. Too comfortable? If you still enjoy his or her company, maybe you simply need to shake things up a little. Introduce some spice into your relationship and make some time for fun date nights and activities you can do together. If this is the case, there are many things you can do to make your relationship more exciting without giving up on it entirely. There’s a difference between being bored of your significant other and being bored with them.
They mean a great deal to you
If you can’t imagine your life without your partner – there’s something to hold on to. Maybe he or she is getting on your nerves today, but that happens to the best of us. Think about whether your significant other adds joy to your life on a regular basis, and if so, try to acknowledge the important role that he or she has come to play in your life. If this rings true, perhaps simply have a discussion about what’s bothering you and see if you can work through it.
You acknowledge that there are problems in your relationship
Acknowledging the problems in a relationship is an important part of making it work. If you realize that there are issues but you still want to find a way around them and work things out, then sit down and have a talk about how to work through them together. Problems are part and parcel of every relationship, romantic or otherwise. You have to be willing to work through these problems in order to maintain your relationship.
Breaking up can be necessary, especially if you’re not invested in your relationship. But if you’ve spent time and effort into your relationship and still care deeply about your partner, you don’t have to let the heat of the moment decide the fate of your relationship. Sleep on it, and who knows you might still want to stay with your significant other tomorrow!